“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language
And next year’s words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning.”
― T.S. Eliot
A Very Happy New Year to all the readers of Dew Drops. I’m slightly late but better late than never.
I wanted to do a checklist of 2016 highlights for myself. But with personal priorities things just don’t happen the way you plan. So, just for the sake of it I’ll list out some of the important highlights from 2016.
- Guilt is something that can suffocate and kill you. I got rid of it by pushing myself once again to apologize and meet the friend in person. This meet was something that should have happened earlier. Much more than seeking forgiveness, the need was to forgive myself. The kind of introspective person I am, I am my biggest critic. And without forgiving myself it was absolutely impossible to move on.
- Let go and feel less pain. Yes. I finally learnt to let go. I learnt that things are sometimes not in our control and we must accept it instead of trying to control. 2016 is the year that brought back a lot of turmoil in the personal life. And I am glad that the year is over. I happened to open up in unbelievable ways to my blog audience too. This also ended up rubbing some people from the family on the wrong side. Anyway, the pain and hurt which I have been carrying along has been thrown away or at least it has been kept aside after so many years. The head feels so much more lighter.
- Defend Yourself Against Negativity and Negative People. Some people are not meant to be in your life. Even if it is at the cost of some other relationships. Be it friendship or family relations, you should not let anyone take you for granted. I realized that I was giving undue attention and importance to some of the relationships that do not even respect my intentions. I closed some of the doors that should have been closed long ago. Peace is always dearer than people.
- Fight for Your Right. My regular readers know that I was struggling with Mom’s pension issues. Finally she started receiving her pension and other proceeds from June 2016. Nine months after retiring. The journey was not at all easy. We fought people. We fought procedures. We fought corruption. The one big lesson I learnt from Mom’s experience is that we should not be good at the cost of our own self-respect. And the other lesson, you have to fight your battle all alone. People who help you are either doing it unknowingly, by stroke of destiny, or because they want to gain something out of it. Be thankful. But don’t overdo it.
- You’re your best helping hand. Nobody but you are capable of helping, healing and strengthening yourself. Discover yourself. Invest in yourself. Aspire to be a better you. Learn to love yourself. Learn to prioritize yourself. Self Love is the most important lesson that we were never taught in the name of selfishness. I spent a lot of time on charting out my interests and picking up the areas to focus. A humble beginning to this is the new blog Wings and Chirps, where I’ll be focusing on few of my areas of interest including Mythology, Travel and Photography. I have started off with #MythicalMondays which helps me read mythological stories from various regions and understand the links between various regions of the country and of the world. The current blog, Dew Drops, which happens to be my alter ego, will continue with my personal journey.
2017 has arrived. And I sincerely wish it happens to be a productive and peaceful year for all of us. Peace to all those beautiful souls that we lost to 2016.
“Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.”
― Shannon L. Alder
Thank you for this wonderfully meaningful post. Hugs to you 😊 for bravely facing it out. It takes lot. I could relate to most of the points and the quotes really resonated with my feelings. I just copied those quotes to add them for my 2016 End post. Hope that is okay? Do let me know if otherwise.
It’s absolutely ok. Thank you for stopping by. And I am glad that you could relate to the post. Happy New Year! 🙂
Thank you Rekha.😊
They are more like a reminders to me rather than anything else.
Happy new year to you too. Have great year ahead. 😊
Fantastic, Rekha. Over the past year, I seem to have gotten to know you better and consequently admire you more. Stay YOU.
Good luck with the new blog and all your plans for 2017!
Thank you, Corinne! Slowly but surely I am rediscovering myself. Gratitude to a lot of people including you from whom I learn a lot. Best wishes to you too for a wonderful year ahead. Stay blessed.
Perfect Mantras for the new year Rekha. Yes one must let go and stay from forms of negativity. keeps the mind at peace and keeps you more focused in life. INfact For me these two points form the core to achieve and stay focussed in life.
You been a brave person.. I need some of that strength my way tooo please ..
all the best for 2017 and here’s wishing you all the best always
Happy new year to you and everyone around you
Great tips and advice from someone who has been there. Hope 2017 will be a better year for us all! All the best!
These are excellent learnings, but can only be learnt with experience. Unless we get hurt, we won’t know how to heal it. The last point is so spot on. I am yet to read the MythicalMonday series. Will check it out 🙂
Stay strong 😀 I wish you a great year ahead 🙂
What lovely post Rekha. Life is never a piece of cake, but 2016 seems to have been playing up with you quite a lot. I wish all the very best for this new year 2017. Hope the new blog gets a lot of love. Good luck!
Loved reading your life lessons, Rekha. I agree to every one of them. Each year teaches us more and more, don’t they? I wish you a wonderful year in 2017!
Wishing you a great 2017. May all your dreams come true
Hi Rekha, happy New Year. I can relate to the issues and pretty much what I battled with. I have decided to flush off negative people, doesn’t matter where they come from. Have an awesome year:)
Loved reading this, Rekha. And I’d like to add that I read it at just the right time. Peace is more important than people, this line is going to stay with me.
Thank you for writing and sharing this post.
So many valid points Rekha. Completely agree with all of them. Hope this new year brings tall this and more for you. 🙂
Rekha, I wish I could open up like this someday, but I know I might never do it, I am so happy for you, I love your courage to face yourself and pour it all out I think that is the true mark of a writer..I have a long way to go and may be then I shall be a free soul…
take care
hugs
Completely agree here : “You’re your best helping hand.” No one else can do for you what you can do for yourself..
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