This is what I updated on my TL last night after a very annoying message in my inbox.
I don’t understand food.
I don’t understand clothes.
I don’t understand make up.
I don’t understand sarcasm.
I don’t understand partying.
I don’t understand friendships behind the walls.
I have rebelled family, friends and society.
And no I don’t regret.
I am what I am. I can’t change myself as per someone else’s convenience.
Now go, judge me.
The message was not from a stranger. The message was not from someone I wasn’t friends with. The reason it annoyed me was that the person had asked me the reason for not regularly liking their posts. For your information, the posts are mostly fashion and food updates, silly jokes and sarcastic updates. When I politely said that I don’t usually like food posts because I’m not a foodie and I am not sure if my like would be taken as an endorsement by someone on my list. That’s exactly the reason I have turned down lucrative offers for reviewing food and baby products on my blog.
Then they asked why not like their page and share their clothing brand updates. To which I had mentioned that I am not a fashionista and I don’t quite understand the new trends in fashion. And this person went on to tell me how backward I am and how very rude and conservative.
No. This did not quite annoy me as I am used to getting bitched about. They were at least saying it on my face…errr inbox. I did not respond because I am myself aware that when in anger, I blast. And I will never be able to take my words back. Have lost enough people because of this bloody trait. I allowed them to type out their frustration.
When they were almost done, I just wrote that there is an unfriend and a block button which they can use any time of the day without anyone’s permission. The reply I got for this amused me and annoyed me.
No. Let’s remain friends. If you have an issue liking my posts, just accept tags on my photos. That way your friend list will be my audience too.
Can you beat that? I have always used the block button after much thought, but this time I didn’t have to think twice.
How very convenient and opportunistic!
So why am I sharing all this? I am sharing this here to make it clear to everyone on my list, feel free to unfriend me/block me if you feel that you’re friends with me to get likes and shares. Feel free to do it if you feel I am not in agreement with your opinion. Feel free to do it if you feel you want to be friends with me behind the TL only. Feel free to do it if I have in any way hurt your sentiments or demeaned you.
The sad reality of these days is that we can’t be friends if we have contradicting views on a certain issue. Opinions are no more respected for the different perspectives they provide. Rather, they are the basis on which your identity is judged. Gone are the days when you could still be fast friends in spite of having differences in opinion. It hurts to see how our lives are getting restricted to likes, shares, number of friends and followers. And how a certain button has the power to allow us to cut off people from our lives partly or completely. I have done that too. And I know how stupid it feels.
I just want to make it clear that feel free to remove me from your group, your friend list for whatever reasons you may have. I am not here to agree or like anything and everything that you think, write or share. Nor do I expect it from you.
A three or four digit number on a certain social media handle does not define me. I am defined by my real life with real and sensible people. I am defined by my principles and beliefs. And I have not given anyone the power to demean my identity. Go, get a life!